05 Jan Practicing Kindess to Ourselves
Question for you: have you ever liked someone less because they had put on weight? I know I sure as hell haven’t
Lately my inbox has been flooded with messages from women sharing how unhappy they are about their appearance/body and man, I’ve been there so I 100% get it. But it brings to light an important topic and that’s: why do we carry such shame when our bodies change?
There are seasons in our lives that will undoubtedly bring changes to our physical appearance and for many of us, 2020 brought changes – lots of changes! But ladies, can we all practice kindness towards… ourselves?! We’re all in survival mode (hello, remote learning, working from home, holidays) and for that, we need to accept that changes may have taken place and move on from there, starting with letting go of the shame.
𝕃𝕖𝕥 𝕚𝕥 𝕘𝕠.
𝗦𝗧𝗢𝗣 verbalizing your need to lose weight and/or your reasons for weight gain. We’re not saying it’s not okay to voice your struggles and rely on others for support. But if you get to a place where this is the point of entry for all your conversations, it’s time to table it. The more you’re circling your thoughts around this conversation, the more your thoughts are focused on ONLY that. It’s hard to move forward when you’re holding so tightly to the past. It’s happened, you (we’ve all) gained the weight, now onto the next step.
𝗥𝗘𝗗𝗜𝗥𝗘𝗖𝗧 your attention to how you want to feel. Envision yourself at the finish line, whatever that may be. How will you feel when you accomplish ______? Focus 𝓪𝓵𝓵 your energy on that. As you create these positive emotions, you 𝘄𝗶𝗹𝗹 follow them. Build your plan around knowing you’ve already won.
𝗘𝗟𝗘𝗩𝗔𝗧𝗘 your emotions by thinking of the people closest to you and the reasons you love them. Note what feelings come up when you think about them. Also, take note of what they may feel when they think of you? Spoiler alert, it has ZERO to do with your weight.
𝗛𝗢𝗡𝗢𝗥 your current body. Look in the mirror and begin to appreciate what you can do with your body. You don’t have to scream self-love from the rooftops. Acceptance is a 𝙥𝙧𝙤𝙘𝙚𝙨𝙨, but you’ll be better served coming from a place of kindness vs. self-loathing.
If you need help getting out of a rut, it’s kinda my specialty Shoot me a email, and let’s set up a time to chat.